“It is not because things are difficult that we dare not. It is because we do not dare that they are difficult.” – Seneca
There is a responsibility that comes with success; there is a greater work load, greater threat of failure. It’s about assessing the risk and overcoming your fears. People say to me – any black belt could have branched out and founded his own school. The fact of the matter is it was not any black belt; it was me who did it. I find that when you take responsibility and plug in intention, the world literally opens up and you discover new avenues to go where you want to be. Right now my school is running classes in two distinct styles, something I would not have even considered possible a year ago.
Running my school, it is not really about how much money I make, it is more about how much my belief system has changed. Organizing demonstrations, seminars, getting out and about in the community; it’s about acquiring the experience, the sensitivity and the confidence to set precedence for future undertakings. I have discovered that my world has got bigger, that’s because I have expanded my belief system.
At one stage in my life my beliefs were limited. I used to believe that violence was the answer, which was my truth at the time. Since working and living in different cultures, working the doors, coaching people my information has greatly expanded. When working the doors in Nottingham, one of Britain’s most violent cities, I have had plenty of opportunity to see the karmic returns of working with violence. I had made the distinction that everything you give will return; it is the given universal principle. So don’t give out that which you do not want to return.
I remember on the doors a woman asking me whether I was a violent person. Looking around I realized I was probably one of the most level headed people in the night club. I told her that it is a job which involved some aggression as well as black humour and camaraderie. In retrospect I knew that a mistake on the doors could spell a visit to the hospital or worse. However in everyday life it is okay to make mistakes; as long as you know where you are heading. You should not be afraid of making mistakes because that is the best way to learn.
One of the things that excite me every day is the opportunity to learn something new. Learning something new changes my world on a daily basis. I take responsibility for my own life, my own health. Too many people try to apportion blame on things like their work, their environment, girlfriend, boyfriend etc. I have had people say to me that they would love to train with me but their knee is playing up, or their girlfriend this or their doctor that. I find that when you apportion blame you disempowered yourself; you take away your own power and give it away.
If you want to be a martial artist you have to train; I did not get where I am at by sitting at home playing the Xbox. If you want to be sculptor, sculpt, if you want to be a writer, write a boxer, box. You have to start somewhere; for example I am blogging on a weekly basis, but am developing skills for a book about my journey in the martial arts, the doors and living in different cultures. You need to shape shift to be that what you want to be, surrounding yourself with the right influence. Providence will rarely knock on your door, but if you go out onto the street, it will meet you halfway.